What does it mean to shift your belief to a higher level and how can you do it?

The following example and the steps involved demonstrates one way that you, as a spiritual life coach, can guide yourself (or someone else) to changing a belief so that you can allow more of what you want into your life in all areas.

• What is one belief that is activated in you that is not serving you?
• I’m not good at marketing
• I don’t know anything and I am just worthless for this.
• I can’t do anything right
• I’m never going to get it

There is a variation on this question to keep in mind.  If you are really engaged intellectually, and that is what you continue to talk about – the intellectual aspects, or the why of the energy – then change your direction and go for the feeling.

What is the overall feeling you are having?

This works well when you don’t think there is any traction with a belief.  It helps you to make a connection so that you can realize that you want to activate something else.

Remember, this is the Law of Attraction.  Beliefs attract like things – right?

So, from that belief, what is the overall feeling you are having?

If you answer something like overwhelm or directionless, then ask yourself - what does that feel like?

You might begin to see a belief pattern that you have activated.  Feel your way through.  You can make it less personal by relating this as if it were someone else experiencing a certain scenario.

If you saw someone else going through this situation, what do you think might be a belief that they are acting out or that they are activating?  How might they answer?  Does that resonate with you at all?

Soften the way you ask powerful questions so that it doesn’t feel like you (or they) must have a WRONG belief.  As their life coach, you don’t want to make them feel like you are “fixing” them.

Belief is only part of getting to the feeling.  Detangling energy is intellectual; this is more about lower level energies and the feelings that go with them.

How is this belief showing up for you?  When you look at how that belief has operated in your life, what do you feel?

• I feel embarrassed that I can’t do marketing well
• I even took a class, but I couldn’t get a marketing plan written to even try to implement it
• I feel like a failure because my whole project is going to fail because I can’t market it
• Everybody else seems to be able to do this except me
• I feel stupid

On a scale of 1 – 10, what’s the intensity of these feelings?

9

OK, just make peace with that number and with all those feelings you are experiencing.  Just let it be OK that this is where you are.

In order to move forward, to take a little step, you need to know where you are now.

• So, is it OK to just acknowledge that these are the feelings you have at the moment?
• Is it OK with you if you choose to move along so that you can change those feelings so that you can feel a little bit better?
• Would it be OK if your intention is to make a small vibrational shift today so that you can feel a little bit better and then be guided to a next action?

Yes, I’d like to feel better.

Good!  Now, think of a time in the past when you felt this way and somehow things managed to work out.

It’s important to take the business aspect out of this equation.  Stay away from the same kind of issue you are dealing with right now.  It may be something in your personal life, although you want to stay away from childhood examples because that is like trying to compare apples and oranges.

I feel like I did a few years ago when I had an intimate relationship with someone who was married.  It was awful, I know, and I felt really bad but I couldn’t stop doing it.  I didn’t know what to do.  I felt totally worthless.

So how does how you were feeling then relate to the feelings you are having now about this issue?

You said you were feeling worthless, that you didn’t know what to do.  So those are the same essences you say you are feeling now, and yet it did work out before.

As you hear yourself making connections to the same feelings, the same essence, you can respond.

• I had already been told that it wasn’t right and I felt stupid that I didn’t know how to stop
• I felt worthless and I knew that this person would always get up and leave me when they got a call from home
• I felt like a failure because I couldn’t attract a right relationship where I was really valued
• Then I felt, what am I doing wrong?

And that’s how I feel now.

You and your inner coach can now see the connection.

So how did that situation work out?

This is an important step because you don’t want to feel like you are left with two incompletions.

I was thinking about how I didn’t know what to do anymore when it suddenly occurred to me that I had never really asked for a solution.  I had not even prayed about this.  I had not even asked God to show me what to do.  I was trying to do it all myself.  Well, eventually, I ended it.

What did you do next?

The next time we were together, the phone rang and it was his wife.  He said that he was sorry but he had to go and would call me later.  I stood up and said that if you leave now, don’t come back.  Don’t call me and don’t come back.  Not ever.

I deserve a better relationship than this and I deserve more than you can be to me. And you know, the amazing thing is that two weeks later I met the man that I eventually married.

So, how can you use that solution again?  What would happen if you prayed again this time?  Did it happen right away last time?

These questions go right to where the crack is in the resistance of the mind.  How did you feel?  What kinds of things did you do to help you through that time?

These are clues to your (their) personality and successful energy management techniques that have been used by you (or them) in the past.

By resurfacing what happened and how you worked through it, you can begin to see that you can apply this same process to your present situation. It gives you the ability to begin to transcend other situations where you have had similar feelings and tangled energy.

Acknowledge your connection.  You had a process.  Something happened in the older situation; something that had multiple steps.  It worked before.  So, why wouldn’t it work again?

You say it worked before, didn’t it?  It’s enough of a crack in the resistance in your mind.  You may be thinking, it really can’t help this time, but at the same time, you are acknowledging the crack – the shift.

It’s a little baby step – a vibrational shift.  Acknowledge yourself making a connection – a small connection – it doesn’t have to be something huge.

Think about when it worked before and how you felt when it did work out.  Get to the connection and pick it apart.

• Yeah, I haven’t really asked for help
• I have been trying to do it all by myself
• I haven’t asked anybody else and I certainly haven’t asked God for help
• That’s what I need to do!

Ask the question, What do you think would be one next step if you were using the same process as before?

You/they have made a shift. Move on with one of the energy management tools, acknowledge where you have moved and how that feels a bit better.

Sometimes I encourage coaches to practice and teach what I like to call the Law of Distraction.  This might be called for when you or your clients have “yeah-buts” that are activating a dominant pattern.

If you have “yeah-buts,” then that vibration will be the dominant vibration; it throws it in your face.  On the one hand, you are attracting what you want to happen by focusing your attention on what you do want.

Your “yeah-but” is based on previous history or past experience with someone or something.  This sense of reality (your past experience) supports the “yeah-but” and it can interfere with your attraction process about what you do want.

You are going back and forth with focusing on what you do want and then focusing on the “yeah-but.”  It’s like you are playing ping-pong off key.

So, this is the perfect place to practice the Law of Distraction.  Just like before, you want to try to activate something else.  You want to send a different vibrational note to the Universe.

Here is the opportunity to sing a song!  That’s right.  Pick a song that you like, somewhere between the ridiculous and the sublime.

One of my favorite songs is one that my mother taught me whenever we got caught up in little dramas like this.  It’s called, Whoops!  There goes another rubber tree plant!

Whenever you catch yourself with the “yeah-but” popping up, distract yourself by singing the song you choose and know that you are passing the “yeah-but” off to your inner coach to hold.

And you do the singing.  Singing always changes the vibration. You have distracted yourself from holding on to the “yeah-but” and now your attraction process can continue on unhindered!

If you want to hear more about these processes and how you can dramatically empower your coaching experience, listen to the recording of a teleclass I did recently called The Missing Element to Your Spiritual Coaching Success.

There is a bonus at the end of the recording of a Round Table panel discussion between Stefanie Hartman, Joe Nunziata, Rich German, and me.  There is treasure to be found in this call for you – don’t miss it! www.coachingfromspirit.com/CFSChallenge.

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